Mass and SPAC ended last Sunday which then led way for the shows in the Philly/South New Jersey area but this time, they set up 2 mid-week shows at the Mann Center. I used to love that venue and BTW, I still do NOT get what that skyline thing is which seems like a cool way to see a show at the venue that I guess is within the venue. Actually, I have never even been up on that lawn except for maybe CSN back in 1982.
My first show ever at the Mann was when I won tickets in some contest at Musicland maybe or some local music store near where I grew up as a teenage kid and it was Steve Forbert whom opened up for Joan Armatrading. I knew none of their music but I went anyway. I liked Steve Forbert’s music after the show but I never really took to Joan Armatrading. Not that I did NOT like her music but I doubt I ever bought an album whereas I bought all of the Forbert albums back then. All two of them but anyway, what other shows did I see at the Mann? I can’t even remember the shows i saw at the mann. The (Grateful) Dead never played at the mann when I was growing up in the area and I cannot remember off the top of my head if they played there back in the 70s. Jerry (Garcia) may have is what I am sorta thinking now, but as you may remember from me writing about it here, I left that Further show at the Mann after one set (two years ago). This a foreshadow to my time I had at the Saturday night Randall’s Island show but then before that Further show, I recently saw Elvis (Costello) at the Mann since I moved back east.
The band (Phish) played there back in da nineties but in a year before I really got into it and besides, I was living in CA at that time. That may have also been during my lost weekend that lasted more than a year in La Honda, but I am not exactly sure.
The Mann to me is in this weird dichotomy in the sense that almost has that small amphitheatre feel like say at Wolf Trap (You can bring in your own food and wine, etc.). But yet the production surrounding the venue feels like any old Live Nation Amphitheatre. They may need to modernize it to go up against the Live Nation venues, or they need to gut it out to make more of a Wolf Trap feel because in reality, the Mann has the same chairs and equipment that dates back to my first show there in 1979. None of it has changed I do NOT think. The balcony is not only so high up from the ground, it’s also way far back in the venue basically over the GA grass area and/or over that last Loge area on the floor. The stage is also set back like 30 feet back from the Pitt Rail area for some reason which I do NOT get since the place is relatively small. The stage engineers were far back too on the side of the stage which is because the stage was set far back but then again, it totally limited the people down in the Pitt area. The farther back they had that stage set up, the more filler and buffers they had in between the stage and the rail. That means lesser people would fit in the GA Pitt so I am looking at a gift horse in the mouth, but i was wondering why the stage is set so far back from the rail.
Anyway, I loved that first show at the Mann.
Halfway To The Moon
Walls Of The Cave
Backwards Down the Number Line
I met people at the venue after work, however, we did go separately so i had to get our tix, etc., at will call, and meet them somewhere on the Mann Center grounds. And in typical me fashion, the first and ONLY person I saw when leaving the press area or that backstage entrance an hour or so before showtime (to go meet people near regular box office) is of course the one person that I chose spending money on blow and X (In defense of it, the plan was to make money from it but instead, I did it) before I stopped partying in 01, rather than carrying out our deal. He was with his family too which mortified me but yeah, I got a smirk from him which then prolly made me smirk back while fumbling to get my phone as a distraction. However, that interaction was/is a victory of sort. (FYI, I tried to make good with their lawyer on that deal a few later after I started work at Warner, and after my sobriety started back then but I never heard back and actually, I had to clear up a warrant for what for a threat I made at them. Because after all, since I owed them money and/or reneged on that deal, and, just like a typical drug addict can rationalize in those pea brains, I yelled at them making threats…(this is in my book anyway which is why I don’t care about talking about it today)…..).
Regardless of me (LOL), there were delays because of gusts of wind before the show. They had to get everyone in the GA grass area to leave the venue for what seemed like maybe twenty minutes tops, and then return again once the wind (and I think it rained too) stopped. I have never seen that before where they tell everyone in the grass area to leave the venue to come back in later on. It was also hot as balls down in the Pitt all night.
First set was solid from beginning to end, even with that harmony they had to tweak during ‘Walls Of The Cave’. I thought this sounded like to be the best show of the tour but then again, I think the shows have progressed naturally better in that way. It has been a gradual upward swing as far as overall play and that’s me of course saying that about the beginning of summer tour.
You know something as I spell this out to you readers, I like that so-called old school feel that AEG and maybe the production at the Mann exudes because I forgot that the staffers that had a huge can filled with bottled waters with ice setup for everyone down in the Pitt. That was huge because I hate leaving my area once I find it. That was way cool of AEG and / or whatever org. spent the money doing that for us.
Second Set was also great. Great groove and I would have to say long jams because I did not even get back to CH, NJ until like 109AM. Any curfew was blown through pun intended with long jams in ‘Ghost’ and ‘Tweezer’. I personally was in hope of hearing ‘Harry Hood’. I was very much in the mood for that groove and then ‘Tweezer Reprise’ after the (Harry) Hood was cool too. That made way for a Possum encore so again, they did not skimp it for a millisecond as far as when they could play till this night. The entire Fairmont Park is a neighborhood and so I would have to say the curfew is at 11PM. It was obviously pushed because of the hour and half or so delay pre show and before the first set.
I am also certain that the dude from Halloween that was trying to tell the ‘take a step back’ story and that I called a douche bucket was on the rail but I was not sure if it was him or not. I do know he was yapping with my friends (Nate from Electric Yellow with phriends and wife) that buffered him but I never looked back to the left sorta of once that music started with ‘Axilla.’ Again, the entire first set was great. I don’t really wanna dissect it since most of my readers have no clue about the band. Which is fine and part of the fun but yeah…Second Night at The Mann.
I am trying to figure out why I was speaking negatively about this venue because now that I think about it head on, I got my tic at will call in seconds. I walked in barley checked at the door in minutes. It was very easy to get us down to the GA Floor area. And then you know they supplied water for people on the ground Pitt area.
They also gave out Phish baseball cards which I got two if them but gave one to Nate because he did not get one while walking in.
This night was great starting off with ‘Glide’. I maintain that this show now also progressed to be another great show building on what they played the night before. Thats how I felt about it. I loved this second show at the Mann and for those who know song titles, etc., you can see there are no negatives at this show…even on paper…Here…Look:
Birds of a Feather
McGrupp and the Watchful Hosemasters
Stealing Time From the Faulty Plan
Devotion To A Dream
Silent In The Morning
Run Like an Antelope
Chalk Dust Torture
Crosseyed and Painless
Sneakin’ Sally thru the Alley
I think (by think; I mean that I know it), they did their first covers which was that Talking Heads tune, ‘Crosseyed and Painless’ and then they did ‘Sneakin Sally’ after ‘Mikes Song’ which was sick and then we have the Julius into the Weekapaug (Groove) encore.
The one thing I wanted to piece together is if they did ‘Alaska’ the same day that Sarah Palin made here ‘feeling like a battered wife’ and ‘No mas, No mas’ comment(s) when talking about how (Barak) Obama treats the likes the of her (ie: immigration issue is that final straw for Sarah (Palin)) and I guess us people. ‘Silent In The Morning’ into (Run Like an) ‘Antelope’ without ‘The Horse’ was also kinda, sorta, unique or not normally done that way so that was cool as far as improv goes.
Tonight I was back in the Hill by 1130 tops I bet.
Then, Day Off on Thursday to gear up for the New York City’ish run of shows at Randall’s Island in New York City.
I have never been anywhere near this part of Harlem. I have only hung out in Harlem at some show on the main street near some government building and except for that, I drive over it i just realized when I drive to Great Neck on Long Island. I have never been in Queens I don’t think. I have been in Harlem but only on Broadway or at the Apollo and one time I was at Columbia U. Oh, I also rode my bike on the Cancer ride up that highway and around that area but that’s it for me.
I keep saying the Brigette whatever her name is email that it is “time for traffic problems in Fort lee” the entire way through that area and when going over that bridge. And, when I say that i was saying it out loud, I was and I said it in phone conversations and ion texts too. Which now sounds annoying of me but I could not stop saying that its “Time For Traffic problems in Fort Lee” until I got close to the venue. I was saying it to myself out loud in the car too.
Honestly, the venue sucks.
Paige said something about it beautiful (in defense of him saying that about that venue is that when I saw the Dave Vann Soundcheck Pix from behind their stage, it did look way nicer than when I was I walking under those overpasses and in that industrial area) or that it was a beautiful venue maybe and I had to ask “where?” All I saw were buildings and a train way up in the distance. I was trying to find Rykers Island but no one thought it was near here even though I had thought it was near it. I wanted to get a pic of it. I have ONLY seen it on Lockup.
There was a small Stadium called Icahn Stadium maybe, but the venue was set up on the other side of the bleachers of that stadium in a wide opened field. The field has small hill parallel the entire way down the east side inside the venue so that’s cool and it was a large venue. Way larger than I thought it would be and I hate to jump ahead but on the way out of the venue late night after this first show, I was in shock at how many people were at this run of shows. There had to be 50K people in that venue. I thought 30 to 40K tops. This was great for the band but ya know, its NYC and its rough seeing shows in the city. Let alone at this venue.
When I first drove up to the bridge that is now called RFK to get over to Randall’s Island, I noticed hundreds of people walking across the bridge. I said to myself that ‘this aint no walking bridge; this is a bridge, bridge, that you can happen to walk across in that walk way. The one thing I made no bones about is that I did not want to have to walk over that bridge in any way. It was way too far and too long and also not that close to the entrance of the venue. But yeah, parking at the venue was easy. But also again, the venue is a fucking pit in this industrial area where one building after another looks like the ‘psychiatric hospital’ would look like architecturally which is somewhere on Randall’s Island. Above me while I was walking in to the venue are train tracks way up high with trains moving each way on them.
You can see the pictures I took here but the good ones of the band are ones that I snagged from the band’s site and they were taken by dave Vann. He set up right in front of me/us at one point in the show.
As I was sitting down near the stage, I am not sure what a ragged bleached blonde woman that was pointing directly at me was asking Antelope Greg (I can read lips for most part but once I saw my name being mentioned, I turned away because otherwise I would have done something like give her the finger which I did not want to do at any show), but I was thinking maybe if it were me and to keep him (me) away from her. Then, Lope walks to the people in front but to the right of me saying something without even saying hello to me. Which is fine and BTW, I think or thought that blonde woman who points at me was one of the Angies. Loud or Regular Angle but regular Angie and I phriends on facebook and if anything I would have thought she would be ok to see me or at least say hello and say hi. It did not look like regular Angie but I have not seen these people in years and I do NOT go to anyones facebook pages. Besides, I ran into someone at the mann whom I kinda asked if they were with anyone else besides each other. He did not say anything about them being there but then again, Loud Angie attacked me physically jumping over people at the Bridge in 04 so I assume she would have done it again or maybe they were saying to make sure I don’t come their way. As if i would have anyway since I sit down in my seat but regardless of whomever that did not want me near them, I reminded myself that the back n forth happy go lucky towards me one day and then stand offish or even awnry attitude towards me on another day gets old. Trying to figure that out gets old fast. And, its drug related when happy or not. That is part of the reason that Phish Heads and me do NOT jive 100%. It is fucking hit or miss whether these people are nice or not. Because the day before at The mann, these same people were pro actively engaging me and saying nice things to my face which surprised the fuck outta me. Do Not get me wrong now, but I think one random guy that hangs on the rail at every show went so far to say something about the way I groove or I dunno something nice or based on nothing else or no one else’s input. But then two days later at the next show, and after saying “goodbye” to each other, I get ignored basically by the same person and by this same group of people.
So I say fuck it but at that same time, who was that woman who was pointing at me and what did she want?
To me, being at Phish is to let go and not worry about what people think about you. That is implied to me. The outlet to be able to feel free and easy (while hearing sick music) because life ain’t free or easy and to have Judgment placed on you for any reason besides what is real (and current because if this is a girl still sore at me for breaking up with someone I lived with until 01, get the fuck over it).
And, I don’t give a fuck who likes me or does not because anyone besides a disgruntled dropped artist that does like me in the modern years or after the early 00′s, they base it always and ONLY from an era when I did drugs.
Drugs came first for a few years and I am sorry for it.
Just like with the same people who do drugs today. However, for me, I must live by some different standard and I guess I can ever live down so to speak, those years.
That is also why I had to break away in 2001. These people were weird but at the same time they no doubt feel abandoned maybe…which I did not mean or they think that i am evil for that one break up. Which come on please. Think. I was with an asshole that chose staying on blow than being in my life. These people should live in those shoes instead of feeling bad for whomever dog’s me in any way. I am of course the person that is awful because I had to stop doing drugs and no one else wanted to do it with me, let alone the girl that was living with me then.
I just say stay the fuck away from me which is great and easy. Now again, mind you that none of these people would say shit to my face and they would never confront in real life at my job. I get that I would make mince out of them but when they are on Blow and X and whatever the fuck else, they get bold at shows. It is part of these people’s 15 minutes of fame which happens to accumulated at a Phish show. And, because they are on rail maybe. I am not sure what the power is but I also attribute it them doing shit drugs. It takes that type of a toll and again, people get coke muscles but overall about the crew on the rail, this one dude was all happy-go-lucky to me one day that I felt comfortable enough to go to them after my work day, and before the first show the next night,. I think I got the so called cold shoulder or maybe not…lol…I am not sure what they found out about me which is why I just laid off not engaging them any more.
And, again, I thought this dude was basing that on me and not what people say about me.
The beauty is that was not even remotely the weirdest shit that went down with me that night. It was a beautiful night actually with the moon beaming off Paige’s side and it was kinda low too. Totally bright and easy to see. I hope my pic came out of it.
with this said now, lets piece this first Randall’s Island show together because I basically went into the show, and set up in the second row in front of two couples or four people I should say, and then in back of two or three of the people I saw at the Mann.
Lots of space. It was a great show. Lots of girls too.
The Moma Dance
Kill Devil Falls
Sample in a Jar
Waiting All Night
Down with Disease
Limb By Limb
Which brings me to the next great story.
First things first is that this set one was great. I loved the (Bathtub) Gin and I always love Kill Devil Falls which they did in SPAC the day of the Kill Devil place in North Carolina that got hit with the Hurricane last week. I was wondering if they did that song last week because of all of the news coming out of Kill Devil whatever its called in NC that day. ‘Gumbo’ and ‘Stash’ together again is old school 95 to me which again, I loved because its quintessential Phish. And they play those songs nice and long. It becomes so easy for them to flow on nights they jam those songs out. I forget what else happened in the first song wise although I do think ‘The Wedge’ was done great but anyway, these guys infiltrate my space behind which I don’t really feel but I did notice it. I also noticed the amounts of girls (women) that were everywhere near us. One in particular but I just assumed she was 19 years old. All of a sudden I hear something when I turn around to see this little girl if you will, backing two guys up into the middle of the floor area away and out of our direct area.
I high-fived her. I high fived her phriend behind her. I said out loud that is my kinda woman. It was beautiful to see and the chick was hot too. almost glamorous hot because she had these glasses on that either made her look a squirrel or alien or whatever has big eyes, but then she looked someone that could shop on 5th Avenue. Sick hair so its cool that she is dancing near me, etc.
The set break begins. We set ourselves down on the ground and so now they can at least see that I am older than I look to people or maybe not because the girl is still talking to me I think. I was kinda shocked.
Then it happens.
I can see peripherally that she is looking at me and so I stare back when she says wait, “Don” and I said right away after seeing her mouth speak, “Oh yeah, how do we know each other again?” and she says the name of the ONLY person I have ever had a horrifying coke infested break up with back like 15 years ago. I then look at her because the ONLY thing I could do now is fall back in the same exact way that Gov. Rick Perry reacted in that one debate a couple years ago by merely saying to her that great word known as, “Oops.” She replies with her smile saying “yes,” “oops”.
It all started to come back to me that we had travelled together seeing many shows together. She dated some other dude we were phriends with at that time.
She ONLY knows me from those years.
I am like Oi fuck me and actually, that is what I said out loud. I also told her phriend that we have lots of history which was not at all that great. Therefore, any attraction I had of this girl (woman) or if some reason she had an attraction with me, was washed away at that drop of a dime. Besides, she was talking with or standing in back of the dude that looks like Trey whom is to the left of me on the rail. However, I would have traded this woman to him for the blonde next to him if I had the chance or maybe not. I also liked the security guard too. The blonde girl in front me. She was staring at me a bunch and I guess visa versa if i saw her staring me but I did not say a word to her of course.
I then cut out after the encore as they bowed to everyone.
I feel badly not saying “bye” to her but again, I was also sick of being known for what is a few year span of time. I also saw them ducking down to do bullets of blow which is fine, but ya know how it is, some things really do not change I guess is what i wanna say….
Which BTW, on a totally other note, I am walking around singing and humming all new songs.
I absolutely love every new song I think which is new territory for me. I love that “Devotion To A Dream” song. I love the “Line” song. Is Yarmouth Blues on it? I love that song. Fuego is psycho every time I hear it or all four times I have heard it. The Phans love it too. Thats a sick song and what else? I am not sure what 555 is but I know if heard it these nights, I can safely say its one the songs I walk around singing these days. I am not sure what “WinterQueen” is but if I heard it friday night, I love it. Same with “Wingsuit” and what am I saying here? I heard them all on Halloween and then I know they did them a bunch too at the New Years run. I have never heard the album from beginning to end and I have not even seen or absorbed the songs selected on it.
I mean I like Bob Ezran but be real about him in the modern years. He is NOT changing the way music is done today. He will shine it up sweetly but that’s gonna be it. He has not produced anything insanely great since the 70s. I have gotten lots of demos from him. I know when he started that label in the 890s. I know his music partner or knew them I should say and they are basic. He is fine. This is what you will get with him as the Producer. A Nice clean shiny produced album. Nothing over the top and every song will be done exactly how it was arranged without any colorful input coming from Ezran. He has not had colorful chops for decades. But he is a nice guy. I just have this great feeling they over paid whatever the fee should have been considering he has not had a hit song since 1973. I am not joking. And, take no offense please. he’s looked up to me big time for it but whatever he has done since 1990 has been ok at best. Thats what you would get in a production of any studio album with him and Phish. He will make that Phish album sound nice but my dog could do that to music these days.
Anyway, after the show was also easy for me. I booked out easily and I was in NJ by 1230 tops. I woke up normally at like 5 or 6 and worked till 130PM. I was staying on 39th and Lex for the next few nights, however, the saturday show was the worst show I have ever been to in my entire life.
It had NOTHING to do with the band and honestly, if it were NOT for some kid hugging me saying that “how can I be this intense during a “Corini””, I would NOT know one song they played in the second set this Saturday Night. This is the guy or kid with the hottie girl who had a shirt with a Maryland flag the shape of Jerry (Garcia) on it, also had a copper like coated glass piece that was perfect. It was honestly a perfect bowl but regardless and I swear on anyone’s god that I have NO clue what they did in that second set except for “Corini.” I think they did ‘Rock n Roll” which I assume to be true because I copied and pasted the yesterdays set list here to see they did not play it Friday Night. That means they did it Saturday night.
But I am serious in saying that it was by leaps and bounds the worst show I have ever been to and it was all because of my rookie mistake. I took someone (not a date; she is married; is/was long time friend) to the show. I took a person that boasts to being friends with Bob (Weir) and boasts to have seen shows in the 80′s when it’s not really true. If this woman saw shows in the 80s, it was well after “Touch of Grey” broke and I can bet the house that every show she speaks about is Further. She is another Further Dead head that acts today like they saw 900 shows before Jerry died. Which Further does not count. All people do at Further is sway next to each other. It’s not phish. I had explained that Phish aint for the faint of heart and that it gets rough at these types of shows. I did not go up to the front of the venue because of her and thank god because they would have thrown her over the rail. That is why I set us up pretty easily back a bit amidst other Dead Head people and his kids. I made sure we set in between them and in back of other people on a blanket. Then we also stood next to the kid with the Jerry shirt from MD. There may have been a few couples of young kids next or with them, so it was easy to insulate ourselves.
The problem was that from the first second she entered the bar at my hotel, she did not even say the word hello before she made a comment about how “frumpy” the bartender that I was just yapping to, was physically I guess. That threw me for a loop so I ignored it but I also can safely say that the she (bartender) heard it. After that interaction between us, she was very stand offish. This woman I have known since 86 may have said it again and then she spoke about the people who may be heavy that wear bikinis or I am not sure why we would be talking about this subject. Except that her and hubby see that at shows which I am not sure if I was to replace her hubby this evening and that she expects me to poke fun at peoples looks, etc. I did not understand why a 48 year old person was acting that way, but at the same time, I was NOT upset or madd at all. I did ask why she would be looking at someones belly. I was inferring that it is weird and sorta odd behavior for anyone at that age to act that way (obviously its insecurity but that is overstating the obvious about it). I also stated that when you look at any human, that you can easily name 11 negative things about that person. I said that to say nice things is hard and honestly, I am trying to discuss anything else but other people as we get up to the show via a taxi cab.
That was easy but from the time we walked out of the cab towards the actual venue around that ICahn Stadium, I could not walk at any normal pace because you know when people need attention, they walk slower than normal while also exclaiming that you walk too fast but again, you can see them taking their sweet assed time strolling along in high heels, etc. You know how people use walking fast as a way to garner some odd form of attention?
I give into it a few times and I even make pretend that i was NOT even walking fast at one point and that i wanted to get out-of-the-way. I slowed down 5 times from the time we left the cab and to the time we got to the grass area inside the venue. I explain that we are late to get a good seat down low. I explain that I need to have a spot and I explain that it will be mayhem for her and I if we do not get set up like now. I said this many times pre show and I even said a number of times that we can set up. Take a breathe and walk around freely once we get to know everyone in area.
We get set up perfectly. Right away I am hearing cry’s (wining) out of her mouth about her needing alcohol. I say to her please allow me to sit down for a few minutes before I walk around to explore the grounds, etc. She wanted nothing to do with waiting and even wanted me to get it for her. After I said to please allow me to hang loose for 5 minutes. I wanted to get know everyone around us now. regardless, she takes my bank card for some reason, to get us beer and her some wine. She comes back spending 58 dollars on a carafe of wine and does NOT get me one beer. Now fundamentally speaking, why I am paying for this is something I am not grasping right now but I’ll drink some too so its fine. Plus, she is a girl so i tend to pay for all chix even if friends or whatever because they are women. But a 58 dollar bottle of wine is not cool to place on someones card.
But whatever. I would never have done that with anyone else’s card and this woman manages to do it two times on my card. I spent 100 bux on wine. I spent whatever money on tickets, etc.
Without me even really noticing it, I was told by a gentleman that has seen the GD (Grateful Dead) over or about 500 times that we seem like husband and wife. And, I agreed that I am being treated like I am not only on a date with some woman, but that I am also there to merely here to take care of this drunk woman. Or, beckon to her every call.
As she “needs” another carafe of wine so cha ching, another 58 more bucks on my card for that unexplained reasoning but think about this now, after I bought the tix, etc., her drink at the hotel and the carafes of wine at the show, I have spent over 200 bux on this person that has zero regard for my life and for my little outlet from normal life on this evening. This time I can barely drink two sips of the wine from second carafe. I am still drinking from first carafe quite frankly.
Honestly, I spent over two hundreds bux on this chick somehow, for her to torment me all night. Thats what i Paid to have happen this evening.
The first set was NOT even that horrible in the sense that I had to only plea for her to try to hold or stand her ground and for her to listen to the music only about 7 times. She also felt some weird need to lean on me physically which I was very uncomfy with in so many ways. I had to explain that when leans on me, she loses her space to other people which was happening by the second. I then had to ask her a few times to please stop staring at my face and she could not stop it for some reason. I am not sure why she wanted to stare at me rather than pay attention to the music.
Then boom, she just leaves the area during the second set. People are all over her space. One kid is leaning on my shoulder. I asked him to stop one time. He does it again but that does not even include him leaning on my entire body which I finally ask it for the second time ever at a show (Lakeland in ATL two years ago), I say “dude,” “Not that it matters anyway, but are you gay?” I have to explain to another adult that they are leaning on me touching me with their man sweat and I am sorry but that is just NOT normal behavior for humans. I am NOT even talking about people leaning on other people but to maintain or claim that you did not realize it is whacked. What did you not feel on your body? Unless of course you want me which is fine, but even that tactic is not the best way to get at me.
I can safely say that out of the thousand or so shows that I have seen live throughout my entire life dating back to high school when I saw Steve Forbert and Joan Armatrading at The mann, and to rave’s and to being in mosh pits a few times, that i have NEVER…EVER….leaned on some random guy.
I have ONLY leaned on or held the hands and bodies of my girlfriends whom I know deeply and that’s it.
I am leaning on whomever and to please stop it. NEVER. Not ever. I mean never. The most that happens is graze or a touch when flailing around when I go nuts and even then, I still try to make certain that I do not touch anyone, let alone another man. And, its out of respect for them. I do NOT touch them because I don’t want people to be grossed out by me.
It is insane in a way because when would that happen anywhere else in life, but at Phish?
What other band has Phans that lean on each other without them noticing they do it? What other walk of life and/or social setting are there people that lean on other random people and touch other random people while they try to dance and without norticing that you are doing it?
When does that happen anywhere else?
And, most of all, do these kids that lean on random people do that in real life and if so, why are they NOT arrested for it?
I am dead serious now.
I can ONLY think of it being like that at Times Square on New years Eve. Maybe its like that but I’ll bet not.
I maintain that this is limited to happening with only dumb assed phish heads because you know why? THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT THEMSELVES. I’ll say it again. How you do not notice when you are leaning on another random person you never met or knew is NOT normal. I am sorry but its not normal behavior for humans to act that way in social settings. Let alone at shows. Even in mosh pitts, you touch people for less time than say when this guy had his body on mine.
Where else? Ibiza? I doubt it.
World Cup Matches? No. Not even during a soccer riot do people lean on other people as long as this kid leaned on me at Phish. I have seen a World Cup match myself live at Rose Bowl and no one leaned on me that entire long day, except for my chick I was dating at that time. I have seen World Cup matches in those squares in major cities like Amsterdam and denmark with piles of people that watch the games on those large screens and not one person drunk or not, leaned on me those entire days or while watching those matches. The ONLY human that leaned on me then was my girlfriend at that time.
I really, really, really, really do NOT know what this phenomenon of people not caring or not knowing is the excuse I get about them touching other random people in these settings. Especially, where there is a shit load of room to dance, twirl, do handstands and cart wheels. Let me say it this way. I do NOT touch people except in a fleeting way when maybe swirling and if i do nail anyone like i said it is for a second in time, and then I make sure I acknowledge it to the person saying right away how sorry ot what I do is make a joke about it….And, it is never an issue for me. I acknowledge every touch I manifest myself at every show. When I touch another human when I dance, I know it. Even if I did 9 hits of X, I have never ever touched or groped or learned on any other random humans, let alone a man. I can easily say that unless I knew them personally and again, in a very, very, deep way, they are NOT getting touched by me ever.
Back to the point here because to be honest with y’all, while she was gone all of this time, I checked my cell for texts from her at least 18 times which means I am not paying attention to what is being played by the band. I wanted to make sure she did not text me in the case if she were having drunk issues or I was picturing her being at the Phish equivalent of Rock Med. I will say it again that aside from R&R and Corini, that I have no clue what they played in the second set.
Phinally, she gets back to the area. She plops down her ass on my feet in front of me and therefore, she is now set on the blanket in front of where I was dancing in between a married couple on their blanket.
This is what i am dealing with during I dunno….Corini maybe?
I say to her that she is in between these two people and she is set on top of my feet. I cannot move my feet. Plus, I also say to her that we brought a chair for this reason which is next to me to my left side. She says that no one cares that she is sitting here and I quickly say that yes we all care that she is sitting there. I asked her to please use her seat or to set herself to the left side of me. Then, the couple she is in between holds a card that says “Stop Talking” on it. I show it to her saying that she has zero self-awareness right now and that she needs to wake up to deal. I tell her she is fucking with me in general and that she is fucking with my space and time all night long and I maintain that she is fucking with everyone around us.
I am at the point now where I feel like I am dealing with a little girl that makes fun of girls weight issues without knowing who they are for real and now she is sulking on the floor in between 5 people to get attention. Bam, Bam, Bam, Bam….Sitting on feet. making demands during songs at least 8 times for me to sit next to her when again, I plead with her to allow me to listen to the music. She would NOT allow me to hear the music. She wants all of the attention and I had no idea what to do and how to act.
And, ya know I am the bad one now because I am the guy that wants to be left alone.
I explain to everyone around me that this is why I don’t do shows with people.
This was a rookie mistake. I fucked up. At the very most, she should have seen a show with seats in a cushy venue and not at this one. This was/is a down and dirty situation. I thought she could deal. She said to me that she could deal. I painted the most ugly picture.
She finally stands up after asking me to pick her up while she raises her hand. She is making zero effort because its like picking up dead weight. And, I am like get the fuck up by your own self you 48-year-old woman. It finally hit me. I was like what the fuck am I doing here?
Then the staring at me starts again and I ask her to watch the music please. She refuses to NOT stare at me and I ask her to please stop staring at me again in this second set. I explain that it is ‘fucking with my head.’ I would see her staring at me again and then her head would snap to look at the stage when she knew I would see it. Or, when I would hold up my hands to block her from seeing me, but then it would slowly begin to happen again. I had my hands up as shield to get he to stop staring at me and she would still stare at me.
She would asked me what she wanted her to do and how she should act and I am like WTF?
I said to LISTEN OR WATCH THE MUSIC….I said one thing every time. I mean every time which is to…’LISTEN TO THE MUSIC…..She could not or she did not understand what I meant by listening to the music. When I did not wanna talk about whatever she wanted to discuss, she began to talk to the kids that I called gay. Now because everyone is scared of me, no one would talk to her and that meant that she fell back to her staring at me. I then could not take it any more. My patience level was long gone by now and I quietly packed up a few things to get ready to bail from the area.
I just wanted nothing to do with being in this area. I had to cut my losses with the hope that none of these people ever recognize me again at a show. I asked this woman if she would mind it if I went over to the side to dance by myself. I said that we could feasibly meet somewhere after the show? I was relieved to hear that she agreed to it, however, every time i went to walk away from the area, she started to follow me and I mean she was standing on top of my heals. I would take one step. Stop, as she would run her body into me stepping on the heals of my feet. I turned back to stay after that happened a couple of times. I begged her again to literally allow me to go to watch the last song and the encores myself anywhere else but here and she finally allowed it. I went to that area near the raised section for the wheelchairs and injured people.
I saw a few people who are on the rail at every show including this one walk in front of me getting ready to get their transportation back to the city, and I felt like I could breathe a bit. you can’t hear squat out there but at least I could breathe.
I was spent. I saw a text from her saying something along the lines of not believing i am not out with her and whomever at whatever bar laughing with her. While she was laughing after the show having a grand ole time knowing my night was god awful, I tried to get a cab and there were none. I waited a half an hour before this couple on a golf cart picked me up. And, the driver drove the three of us to that bridges walkway entrance where hundreds of people were already filing up the steps to get up to the walk way on the bridge. Yes, that very bridge when I stated out loud that I did NOT want to walk over pre show one here at Randalls, I was now walking over at midnight eventually to get me a cab once in Harlem.
I got a cab to get me down to 39th Street. And, honestly, I bailed Sunday. I blew off that show but here is the set list from Saturday Night which as you know, I am seeing and recalling for the first time right now:
Devotion To A Dream
My Sweet One
Back on the Train
Halfway To The Moon
A I Heard The Ocean Sing
Run Like an Antelope
Punch You in the Eye
Rock & Roll
sHIT. i FORGOT ABOUT pyite.oops caps…sorry…Regardless of my night, I got home in the afternoon some time and I just slept all day before watching Sunday night TV (and the set list ticker)….I am NOT telling anyone though that I did not go to the final show and I am placing the stub in my book. So don’t tell anyone please and thanks.
Here is the Sunday set list:
Birds Of A Feather
Water In The Sky
Bouncing Around The Room
Split Open and Melt
Chalk Dust Torture
Wading In The Velvet Sea
Slave To The Traffic Light
Backwards Down The Number Line
It is Monday now and there is the Live On Jimmy Fallon thing tonight. I had thoughts about going it but I have no desire to go to the city any time soon. I have never been to a Tonight Show in person. I have done Letterman a few times. One time with Jerry (Garcia) and Bob (Weir).
Overall, I just wish I had the willpower to NEVER go to any of the Philly, NJ or NYC area based shows. The problem is that you get a night like that second one at Boardwalk hall but then again, Boardwalk Hall is Boardwalk Hall. Thats the best indoor or overall venue on the east coast and so my point is that its prolly natural and easy to turn it on at that venue. For me and this happens at every run of show in NY (especially winter time), it is so hard to flow in say a New York City. I get that you must give into it per se, and I have been there done it 90 million times so I see them all locally, rather than sit at home. I also get that when everyone would shut and not make judgement on people at shows in any way, maybe…just maybe…people could hang loose to flow in such a great way. Thats an overall generalization and about my time this week.
I dunno man. I assume they will play at this venue again, but it was gross and hard to deal with logistically. Production was awful. Logistics are a nightmare.
I am psyched for the week and half break. I am on fence about whether to do Merriweather since what went down last year, and/or I may do the last show before I head to VA. Then I’ll do the last the three down south amidst some camping in the mountains down there in TN
And, then I want to do that Peach Festival with Trey if I can get a house for the weekend and/or do some white water rafting or some good hiking in that area. That bill looks amazing (Weekend of Aug. 15th).
OK. I am back for a week and some days. Lets rock.